By: JC

JC — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 22:56:26 +0000

My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 2 of those years. For the past 5 years, during arguments, I have endured A LOT of name calling. Things that are really demeaning and hurtful . Our arguments are fairly frequent (especially within this last year), so as you can guess the name calling is fairly frequent. We have had many discussions about the way he makes me feel when he does this. He has acknowledged that it is wrong, but yet continues to do it. He tells me that the things he says aren’t how he really feels and he only does it only when he is upset and I should understand that. I tell him that there is a such thing as “fighting fair” and the fact that it makes me feel so horrible he should respect my feelings and just not do it. Unfortunately after all the discussions and arguments about this problem, it is still continuing to happen. If the name calling happened just once in a while I honestly don’t think that I would be so sensitive to it, but it has been happening consistently every time we have a disagreement for the past 5 years, even during minor annoyances. Within the last year I reached my breaking point. I gave up trying to fight for my feelings, simply gave up fighting. It wore me down. I feel very distant from him and even have a hard time looking at him without wanting to crying. I want to be with him, I want things to be good between us. I don’t know what to do anymore.
I guess what I’m asking is: Am I being too sensitive about the name calling? Should I keep fighting for my feelings? Or should I move on? Is there anything I can do to change our situation to make it better?

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By: JC