Bea’s Question for Marsha… “1) When things were good we had no children, I had endless time to devote to him, and I was not working and going to school. I never told him about a bad day and was on a career path he liked. I had no other obligations so I could hunt, [...]

Nicole’s Question for Marsha… “Marsha, My husband and I have been married for seven years, we dated for two years before marriage and we were the best of friends for five years before that. The first years of our relationship and marriage was awesome. The two of us connected in ways that you only see [...]

Shirley’s Question for Marsha… “My husband has been in an emotional affair for 10 years. We have been married for 45 years. He says it is over, but I don’t believe him. She is his business partner. I am at the end of my rope. How do I live with this?” Marsha’s Answer for Shirley… [...]

Mo’s Question For Marsha…

Hi Marsha,

“We had a beautiful life where we shared everything. We saw each other every day for 18 months before we got married. We stayed the same after marriage and had a lot in common.

After we had children, my wife had postpartum depression which I didn’t notice because we moved to a new country for a new job. She doesn’t care for the children at all and I had to always remind her to take care of everything.

It makes me feel that she wants to enjoy life care-free while I have to take care of everything. I cannot have responsible for anything as she always fails to do it. I became so upset, I started scaring her to get things done.

She had an affair for two and a half months with someone and I discovered it last month. She left home citing that she has mixed feelings and she did it as revenge. She said they only kissed by I highly suspect that they slept with each other as she went to his apartment.

She still lied to me about the details of the affair and therefore I believe we cannot go on as I don’t trust her. What shall I do? I’m steaming with anger about being cheated yet I love her and don’t want to loose her.”

Marsha’s Answer to Mo:

Cindy’s Question For Marsha…

“We’ve been married over 22 years, together over 23 1/2. I really don’t like him AT all!”

1) I don’t really remember our marriage every being “good.”
Before the “I do’s,” we at least seemed to be content, although we were broke and didn’t do much. Of course I believe I made HUGE mistake in marrying him, but you can’t undo history.

2) Our marriage is a constant war zone. I’ve been a homemaker, stay at home, homeschooling wife/mom. Our oldest, who’s 19 moved out this June. He’s betrothed and in college. Our youngest is 16, has been lonely with his brother gone, we live in a dead very small little town. He’s sick of being here alone in the war zone with us, and I’m ready to let him move into his own place near his brother for his own mental health.

3) I think my husband is a sociopath. I have standards and believed in staying till the kids were grown, and have almost accomplished that. But I am having a hard time now believing that was the best choice. The oldest moving out, and now likely the youngest, it’s forcing us to deal with all of our problems, and he trys to avoid everything. At least he works. He knows this is the case, because he’s so out of the loop around here, when he attempts to pay attention, he gets himself in more trouble than if he’d have just kept his mouth shut. Then whines complaining, “I know, I’m just the witless provider.” I say back, you get what you put into life. I’m just tired and realize divorce is likely the only option out of this hell.