You bring up a classic message in your comment. You are wondering how by giving your husband “whatever he wants”, why would he have any incentive to work on a relationship with you?

Without getting into all the history of your marriage, there is one thing you should know.

A woman has great sexual power to make a man to do virtually anything she wants. A man does not have this kind of sexual power over a woman. The way a woman uses this sexual power is pretty simple but very few women can do it. I will give this plan to you and you will see that you won’t be able to imagine doing what I am suggesting. But if you could, you would have him coming back to you in about four weeks of doing what I’m suggesting.

1: Be constantly positive around him.
2: Be sexy around him.
3: Be encouraging to him.
4: Manage him by his suggestion.

I’ll explain these.

To make this work, you have to get rid of all of your negative energy and criticism, tension, need to blame your husband or defend yourself. Replace this with a calm, secure, safe and upbeat feeling that you give off to him and everyone. (Google: “how to eliminate your negative feelings in 60 seconds”)

Be sexy around him means that your hair, makeup, nails, shoes, outfits are all chosen to attract a man. A man is extremely visual and nothing like a woman this way. Women are not visually stimulated. Men are. When you dress up every day and make yourself look really sexy and along with your look comes a playful upbeat attitude, this becomes almost impossible for a man to resist. This is a big component of your sexual power over a man.

Be encouraging to him means that you look for little things to complement him on. Small things like “you look good in those pants” or “that was really nice what you did for your mother”, or “congratulations on getting that promotion”. Small complements over small things is the key to this idea. This is what a man really wants and he wants lots of complements and he wants them every day from his girl.

Manage him by suggestion. This means that you will get what you want by giving him small one-time suggestions. Examples: “that was really nice when you took out the garbage for me yesterday morning, it saved me a lot of time.” “That backrub you gave me was really nice thanks.” “I really appreciate how you made lunch for the kids Thursday, it was really thoughtful.” These are suggestions and they can only be given once. These suggestions sit inside a man’s brain and tell him his direction and what he needs to do more of. It only requires a light touch from a woman who is doing the first three things every day.

So there it is Maggie, the plan that every man wants, every man dreams of, every man wishes for but very few women ever do. It’s why affair women are successful wall wives are not. Affair women who are stealing men do this plan all the time. But if any wife would do it, she could keep her man forever and he would deliver emotional security and financial security to her for the rest of her life. These are the two things that a woman can’t get when she lives alone. No one else can deliver these two things, big needs for a woman, except a man.
I hope this helps.
Larry

Thanks for writing and it’s encouraging to see that you are putting a very positive feeling out to your wife so that she feels safe with you. I hope you will find a way to make it a way of life as well.

Larry

Learning to eliminate your negative feelings is one of those few skills in life that really can (and will) change your life. -Larry-

IT WORKS! LIKE A CHARM!

It worked on my ex – we know have a good co-parenting relationship.
It worked on my friends – we are more open and honest.
It worked on my family – they are so grateful for my new approach.
It worked on my kids – calm, peaceful, happy, fun house!
It is working on my current boyfriend – he responds to me in such a different way than I was used to…a way that is so perfect for me.

Thanks Larry -

Debi

So why keep me in suspense, after two children and a third coming up? (which, by the way he has rejected)?

Jane