“My husband and I eloped in 2006 because my husband lost his job so to lessen his burden we decided to have our family wedding in 2012 when our financial situation is getting better.  In July 2009, my husband hit me in the public library because he was very hungry and he said he thought I did on purpose not typing the right password to the computer.

I think my husband hit me and “lost it” because he heard me saying to him “I married you because you asked me. I don’t love you.” when I got upset at the end of May 2009 while driving because of his behavior that seemed to be intentionally done by my husband to create disturbance instead of harmony between us.  July 2009 was not the first time my husband hit me. It was the first time my husband did multiple times in public.

His brother told him to cut me off. His mother is denial type.  So tell me, can my husband turn back to his good conscience self after forcing me to be homeless without any good conscience at all?

Do you Larry actually think a man like my husband can come back to his good conscience so he can fulfill his own wedding vows including for my parents and myself besides working on our together goals while his brother has told him to cut me off and his mother seems to encourage him to go after other women and his father probably supports his mother’s idea?

My husband has been chiming to this song “I barely can support myself, if I have to pay spousal support, I won’t be able to finish my phd” so that the male judge has been on my husband’s side intentionally delaying the support even it is only temporary support to be enforced to my husband.

Although I sense that my husband does not actually want divorce deep inside his heart, but he is probably too weak as a person to defend that feeling, so he is using a lawyer now that his parents probably is helping him to pay for the lawyer.  Please let me know your honest input as to how all the links about saving marriage non-traditional way can work for my situation with my husband.

Thank you,”
Rachael

Larry’s Answer for Rachael,

First of all, physical violence is never acceptable in marriage, but with that aside, it is productive to think about people who marry according to how much trauma and rejection they had in their childhood. The more pain they had in their childhood, the more pain they dish out in their marriage. I can see that your husband was programmed to lose his temper and hit when he is faced with painful situations. That is a brain program. (Go to http://www.top20questions.com for a thorough explanation of how childhood affects marriage).

You chose a man to marry who has anger in his brain that he is programmed to release when he marries any woman, not just you. You have given me a long explanation of particular situations but if you simplify your story, your husband is running away from you and his family doesn’t like you because you did not give them what they wanted. From what you wrote, his family defends anyone who would threaten a family member and that is a situation you cannot win in. Because you married into a troubled family, and you may have come from one yourself, without unique knowledge, you cannot solve this problem with a man and a family who are completely against you. You cannot use law, common sense, argument, or any kind of force to bring him toward you. In fact, all those things create more tension and end the marriage faster.

You have said nothing about your childhood, so I can’t comment on your side of the marriage. What I do know is that you are asking for financial security from a man, and his family, who will not give it to you. You suggested that your husband is too weak and is being influenced by other people who are protecting him. That indicates to me that he is a sensitive guy who has an angry program in his brain that he cannot control, which explains hitting you. But since he is by nature a sensitive weaker man, he will not be able to stand up to anyone and protect you, let alone control his anger program in his brain.

He is still trying to become a PhD so he doesn’t have a lot of earning power which means you will not have financial security from this man. Most of your explanation is your dealings with the legal establishment and you don’t mention much about the kind of person you are or the kind of person he is or was.

In summary Sandy, there is one fact I know above all else when it comes to marrying a man. A man will treat his wife EXACTLY the way his father treated his mother in that boys first 10 years of life. If you know about the way his father treated his mother in his first 10 years, then you know about your future with this man. When you look at that feature, is it what you really wanted? But I can promise you that fighting and arguing, defending your own point of view and insisting on what you want have never created love.

Until next time,

To a LESS stressful and MORE fulfilling marriage,

Larry Bilotta

Developer of the “Environment Changer Program

Stop Your Divorce Today – Without Your Spouses’
Participation Even AFTER The Papers Have Been Filed

——-> www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com

About Larry Bilotta:

Larry Bilotta has been teaching couples how to restore their loveless marriages since 1995. Back in the 90′s, Larry was suffering MISERABLY in a loveless marriage.

He needed a way to reduce the stress, anxiety and tension in his marriage. Not because he was devoted to his wife, but because he needed to maintain his own SANITY. Larry’s wife didn’t believe in divorce…but at the same time, she told him he could leave her…in a body bag!

Needless to say, Larry set out on a mission to find a REAL solution to their ongoing struggles. And after 27 years of misery – he finally found it. Today, Larry and his wife are now happily married for 34 years…and they’re closer than ever.

Larry is one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his OWN marriage and today, holds the key to bringing back a marriage from the brink of divorce – even AFTER the papers have been filed.

At the core of Larry’s teachings is his “secret method” that allows individuals to transform themselves from the inside out, and positively influence their spouse as a result. By learning to eliminate their negative feelings in just 60 seconds, Larry has taught individual spouses how to completely change the environment of the marriage through his Environment Changer program for the past 15 years.

Listen to the stories of Larry’s Environment Changer program graduates in their own words here.

Until next time,

To a LESS stressful and MORE fulfilling marriage,

Larry Bilotta

Developer of the “Environment Changer Program

Stop Your Divorce Today – Without Your Spouses’
Participation Even AFTER The Papers Have Been Filed

——-> www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com

About Larry Bilotta:

Larry Bilotta has been teaching couples how to restore their loveless marriages since 1995. Back in the 90′s, Larry was suffering MISERABLY in a loveless marriage.

He needed a way to reduce the stress, anxiety and tension in his marriage. Not because he was devoted to his wife, but because he needed to maintain his own SANITY. Larry’s wife didn’t believe in divorce…but at the same time, she told him he could leave her…in a body bag!

Needless to say, Larry set out on a mission to find a REAL solution to their ongoing struggles. And after 27 years of misery – he finally found it. Today, Larry and his wife are now happily married for 34 years…and they’re closer than ever.

Larry is one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his OWN marriage and today, holds the key to bringing back a marriage from the brink of divorce – even AFTER the papers have been filed.

At the core of Larry’s teachings is his “secret method” that allows individuals to transform themselves from the inside out, and positively influence their spouse as a result. By learning to eliminate their negative feelings in just 60 seconds, Larry has taught individual spouses how to completely change the environment of the marriage through his Environment Changer program for the past 15 years.

Listen to the stories of Larry’s Environment Changer program graduates in their own words here.

“My husband has already moved out and wants a divorce. His parents have been married for over 50 years and I am my husbands 4th marriage. So I am wondering about the first 10 years of his life. If his parents are still married, why does he have such an issue? He had a good childhood too, so I don’t understand. My parents are still married too and my childhood wasn’t bad either. My dad was really strict, but that’s about it. Thank you.”

Larry’s Answer for Kris,

Hi Kris,

Your note tells me that your husband has been fighting the programming of his parents who stayed married 50 years. I’m sensing he is quite a defiant guy or at least very independent. That means he is a “bucker”, as in a bucking bronco that throws off the rider. He is throwing off his parents programming in defiance to them. If you look in his childhood you should see that he was at odds with either his father or mother. Either one or both parents could not get through to him and he has been defying them ever since. That’s my guess.

Until next time,

To a LESS stressful and MORE fulfilling marriage,

Larry Bilotta

Developer of the “Environment Changer Program

Stop Your Divorce Today – Without Your Spouses’
Participation Even AFTER The Papers Have Been Filed

——-> www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com

About Larry Bilotta:

Larry Bilotta has been teaching couples how to restore their loveless marriages since 1995. Back in the 90′s, Larry was suffering MISERABLY in a loveless marriage.

He needed a way to reduce the stress, anxiety and tension in his marriage. Not because he was devoted to his wife, but because he needed to maintain his own SANITY. Larry’s wife didn’t believe in divorce…but at the same time, she told him he could leave her…in a body bag!

Needless to say, Larry set out on a mission to find a REAL solution to their ongoing struggles. And after 27 years of misery – he finally found it. Today, Larry and his wife are now happily married for 34 years…and they’re closer than ever.

Larry is one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his OWN marriage and today, holds the key to bringing back a marriage from the brink of divorce – even AFTER the papers have been filed.

At the core of Larry’s teachings is his “secret method” that allows individuals to transform themselves from the inside out, and positively influence their spouse as a result. By learning to eliminate their negative feelings in just 60 seconds, Larry has taught individual spouses how to completely change the environment of the marriage through his Environment Changer program for the past 15 years.

Listen to the stories of Larry’s Environment Changer program graduates in their own words here.

“1) When things were good we had no children, I had endless time to devote to him, and I was not working and going to school. I never told him about a bad day and was on a career path he liked. I had no other obligations so I could hunt, fish, and help him all the time.

2) He’s distant and cold, doesn’t respect me, never tries to find time together. I’m worn out to the point of illness from trying to reconnect him, working a job I hate, and be a great mom. We are in the middle of divorce proceedings I have strong beliefs against divorce, but can’t change his mind.

3) I feel sad that I can’t give my daughter a mommy and daddy in the same house, betrayed that he never could accept that I needed to change careers because I would make less money, upset about the first time he admitted there was anything he wanted me to change was when he asked for a divorce. I’ve brought problems to our marriage and I have felt so trapped by him that it has made things tough on me and pushed me into some serious depression. I feel that he just doesn’t even care to try to find common ground because he likes his ground too much.

4) I don’t know what I can do to fix things, but I’m working on changing careers now, and am also working on being myself again and loving myself again. I think we could work it out if he would quit trying to “fix” everything for me and let me fail from time to time so I can learn and grow. I’m willing to accept him as he is, however I need to have a life/career I am proud of and enjoy and to not be confined to working 60+ hours a week in a job I hate and am no good at. We have a child and lived away from family…we can’t both work that much each week. Now he doesn’t want me to work because he’s scared I will get sick again, but resents me being at home and thinks I will hate all careers just because I hate this one. I’ve been trapped, but I want to work it out for my daughter…she deserves it…and my husband and I still get along and have never fought so I want it to work. Is there anything I can do? Divorce agreement has already been drawn up.”

Marsha’s Answer for Bea,

Bea,

“It sounds like you are the one in the relationship that is trying to make it work.

Is he willing to work on it? If he has mentally and emotionally checked out then it is up to you and you alone to work on the marriage. One thing you need to focus on right away is keeping yourself calm and sane for your child.

Having never fought just means that someone has kept everything inside. It is really hard to fix something that isn’t acknowledged.

My husband Larry has a video that I think will help you understand where some of your husband beliefs are coming from about your career. The video is titled “Why You Fight” and you can watch it here.

Larry teaches that it’s important to understand WHY your husband has the beliefs and values that he does. It’s also important you clearly identify what your belief system says about a man and a woman’s role in marriage as well as your husband’s.

I would suggest you submit your story to my husband Larry’s Second Chance program for an opportunity to speak with him. Larry will give you a much clearer perspective on your situation so you can develop a plan to save your marriage. You can find more information about this here.”

Marsha

“Marsha, My husband and I have been married for seven years, we dated for two years before marriage and we were the best of friends for five years before that. The first years of our relationship and marriage was awesome. The two of us connected in ways that you only see in cheesy Hollywood romances. I always felt like he was my guardian angel and he called me his muse and together we lived in our on alternate reality.

However, things have just gone steadily down hill. He has become angrier and more controlling-to the point of violence. I love my husband and I know that he loves me. I have left several times and went back. This past January I left and after much chaos, I have our children and we live in a separate town than him. At first we didn’t talk at all, then we did and now he says that he doesn’t want to hurt us anymore and is isolating himself from us and his mom and the world. Without him in my world I feel empty, without life-void even. I can’t breath. I hurt all over, literally. I feel as if I am a zombie and I just go through the motions of the day. Please help us. We both fight bi-polar disorders and the few times that he gets on the phone with me I can tell he is sinking further and further into depression. As for my children, they have had their world turned upside down. Once they were sweet innocent children who made good grades and left and played together, but now they fight and yell and I get letters home from school almost daily.

Please help us. I have been going to counseling but it doesn’t help. The children go but all they can think of is dad and how he is not a part of us anymore and on the rare occasion they see him it doesn’t seem like him. I try real hard to put on a front for them, but they see through me.

My husband and I truly love each other. Have you ever seen the movie Hancock with Will Smith? This is how I feel we are–irresistible drawn to each other, but a destructive force of nature together.”

Marsha’s Answer for Nicole…

“I believe the best chance for you to get some answers is to talk to my husband Larry. Would you and your husband or just you, be open to setting up a call with him?

If you are open to it, you can submit your story for a complementary call with Larry who will be able to give you some great insight into your situation”

Marsha

“My husband has been in an emotional affair for 10 years. We have been married for 45 years. He says it is over, but I don’t believe him. She is his business partner. I am at the end of my rope. How do I live with this?”

Marsha’s Answer for Shirley…

Dear Shirley,

“All I can do is tell you what I would do. I can’t guarantee anything but I am a fighter so that is what I do.

If this woman is his business partner then he will always be around her.

Did he break it off or did she? Have you ever confronted her? Did you just recently find out about this? If you haven’t heard her side then I am not sure you can believe his.

I would arrange a meeting or at least a phone call. Get all the facts and then you can decide what you need to do next.

I hope he is telling you the truth and that you can somehow remember the best of the 45 years and that will overshadow the worst, but this is where I would start.

Also, my husband Larry wrote an article on emotional affairs that may help you work through this that you can find here.”

Marsha

“My boyfriend and I have been together for five years now and for five years he has wanted to get married to me, but I have a fear of marriage and especially divorce. I feel that after two kids and one on the way that I am finally ready to get married to him, but I also feel if I don’t just do it now then I probably never will. Am I ready to get married?”

- Tiffani

Larry’s Answer for Tiffani…

Tiffani,

Of course you are not ready for a legal commitment.  You fear commitment (marriage) greatly and your fear has created a legal situation that’s not favorable to you or your children.  Marriage is a legal construction between you, your man and the state you live in.

This legal construction gives you legal rights in society that the unmarried do not have.  When you just live together and produce children together, you have no legal rights to the money and assets produced and owned by your boyfriend.  Your children have your father’s name, not your boyfriend.  In an argument about who should the children live with (in a breakup) the law is not on your side because the law applies to people married under the legal institution called marriage.

After five years, you’re not married because you have seen the unhappiness of devastated marriages and you don’t want that pain for yourself.  Your solution was to remain unmarried but live like married people do.  You and your boyfriend have had to answer questions like “Who will the children live with if we decide to divorce?”  and “How much of your money belongs to me and “MY” children?  Your children struggle too because they are not sure why other kids have their dad’s last name, but they don’t.

Your wording in this message tells me you are riddled with insecurity and uncertainty.  That means you have a lot of fear about marriage and if you fear it now, you’re really going to fear it when you’re in it.

My advice is that there is a lot about yourself and your boyfriend you don’t know but should really learn.  Until that time, and until that fear of commitment goes away, you will stay as you are.

Larry

Until next time,

To a LESS stressful and MORE fulfilling marriage,

Larry Bilotta

Developer of the “Environment Changer Program

Stop Your Divorce Today – Without Your Spouses’
Participation Even AFTER The Papers Have Been Filed

——-> www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com

About Larry Bilotta:

Larry Bilotta has been teaching couples how to restore their loveless marriages since 1995. Back in the 90′s, Larry was suffering MISERABLY in a loveless marriage.

He needed a way to reduce the stress, anxiety and tension in his marriage. Not because he was devoted to his wife, but because he needed to maintain his own SANITY.

Needless to say, Larry set out on a mission to find a REAL solution to their ongoing struggles. And after 27 years of misery – he finally found it. Today, Larry and his wife are now happily married for 34 years…and they’re closer than ever.

Larry is one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his OWN marriage and today, holds the key to bringing back a marriage from the brink of divorce – even AFTER the papers have been filed.

At the core of Larry’s teachings is his “secret method” that allows individuals to transform themselves from the inside out, and positively influence their spouse as a result. By learning to eliminate their negative feelings in just 60 seconds, Larry has taught individual spouses how to completely change the environment of the marriage through his Environment Changer program for the past 15 years.

Listen to the stories of Larry’s Environment Changer program graduates in their own words here.

Recently, I received an email from a woman (we’ll call her Jan) whose mother-in-law was trying to get closer to her former black sheep son by being needy and requesting money, food and her son’s time for “emergencies”. The way she got his attention was by making him feel valuable by being dependent on him – in this case, dependent financially.

This was causing great distress on Jan’s marriage pushing her to the breaking point.

Although it may seem like it, this situation was not about money, food or a genuine need for the mother-in-law’s help. It was about a mother’s emotional need for her son to make her feel important.

It immediately became obvious to me that Jan’s mother-in-law was from a chaos childhood. She never dealt with the emotional pain and rejection of her childhood. Today as an adult, she is still emotionally insecure and needy. Since she is needy and self-centered, she has no ability to care about her son’s marriage. She only cares for herself.

Any attempt Jan would make to expose the mother-in-law as self-centered would be met with her husband’s resistance because it turns out that he is getting an emotional need met as well. He has always wanted the love and acceptance of his father and mother and now at this point in life, he is able to get his mother’s approval and acceptance. The money means nothing to him, but the approval is of great value. That feels very good to him but he has another problem.

The problem is, he is driving Jan away from him so far that she will soon not love him anymore and have no emotional connection to him. But he doesn’t see it.

In situations like this, the only way to get him to see it, (and this will sound very drastic to most but it’s the only thing that actually gets a man’s attention) is for Jan to, without any warning while she still loves him, move out of the house and leave him a letter that spells out why she no longer feels loved by him.

When Jan’s husband sees all of her possessions gone, this letter will wake him up. When he wakes up, he will realize something that no amount of talking will make him see.

It’s important though that Jan be willing to stay away from the house for as long as six months while her husband makes all his wrongs, right. I advised Jan that she needs to be careful not to move back too soon because her husband must prove he realizes that she, not his mother is his priority. Until he proves that repeatedly, she shouldn’t move back home.

I have read many e-mails from women like Jan who are at the breaking point but still love their husband. Their biggest mistake is not moving out WHILE they still love their husbands. They wait until they are emotionally dead and then the chances of saving them are DRASTICALLY reduced.

If YOUR biggest problem in your marriage is mother-in-law related, I would encourage you to read the three paperback books titled “Reality Transurfing” books 1, 2 and 3. These books will show you a way to the handle pressure you’re under so you do not feel like collapsing in the process. The message in these books is transforming and will secure you emotionally while you do what you must do to wake your spouse up to the reality of this problem in your marriage.

Until next time,

To a LESS stressful and MORE fulfilling marriage,

Larry Bilotta

Developer of the “Environment Changer Program

Stop Your Divorce Today – Without Your Spouses’
Participation Even AFTER The Papers Have Been Filed

——-> www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com

About Larry Bilotta:

Larry Bilotta has been teaching couples how to restore their loveless marriages since 1995. Back in the 90′s, Larry was suffering MISERABLY in a loveless marriage.

He needed a way to reduce the stress, anxiety and tension in his marriage. Not because he was devoted to his wife, but because he needed to maintain his own SANITY. Larry’s wife didn’t believe in divorce…but at the same time, she told him he could leave her…in a body bag!

Needless to say, Larry set out on a mission to find a REAL solution to their ongoing struggles. And after 27 years of misery – he finally found it. Today, Larry and his wife are now happily married for 34 years…and they’re closer than ever.

Larry is one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his OWN marriage and today, holds the key to bringing back a marriage from the brink of divorce – even AFTER the papers have been filed.

At the core of Larry’s teachings is his “secret method” that allows individuals to transform themselves from the inside out, and positively influence their spouse as a result. By learning to eliminate their negative feelings in just 60 seconds, Larry has taught individual spouses how to completely change the environment of the marriage through his Environment Changer program for the past 15 years.

Listen to the stories of Larry’s Environment Changer program graduates in their own words here.

“Larry, My wife has told me that there is another man she wants to see and has feelings for but is not in love with him. It has been going on for about five months. She also says she loves me and is in love with me but not like she use to be. How do I stop the affair and make her fall back in love with me?”

- William

Larry’s Answer for William…

William,

When you wrote that your wife is interested in another man and saying confusing things, it tells me she is entering a midlife crisis. This is a time in adult life when for some people (Chaos Kids), the pain of the first 10 years of childhood comes gunning for the person. It’s like a bomb explodes in her brain and all things that used to be normal become abnormal.

This may sound strange to some, but I want you to think of this like your wife is on a different planet…with an entirely different set of rules.  We’ll call this “Planet Chaos”.

Here on Earth, when you treat people good, they treat you good in return. But on planet Chaos, when you treat a person good, they deliver back PAIN in return.

There is a completely different set of rules on planet Chaos. When you are married to a woman who has entered Planet Chaos, you will throw yourself into great painful turmoil if you keep expecting the rules on planet Earth to apply. On planet Chaos, you cannot stop an affair because an affair is a normal part of living on planet Chaos. On that planet, there are no morals and no loyalty, so don’t expect her to have any.

You need to imagine that you are back in high school competing for the prettiest girl in school. You’re up against other guys who are selling her very hard. She is no longer in her right mind now so she would never recognize the ridiculousness of the situation and you must play along and not call the situation ridiculous. Remember William, you are on planet Chaos now.

There’s two rules you must remember:

1. Rule number one: she wants what she does not have.
2. Rule number two: what she already has, she does not want.

Because everything about you is normal, you are what she already has. If you are going to work with the rules of planet Chaos, you must work to fulfill rule number one in every creative way you can think of.

Physically, that means changing your hairstyle, your glasses, shoes, clothing, car, taste in food, anything that can be physically identified as different about you.

Emotionally, you must appear calm, happy, content, wishing well to everyone and seem to be totally secure in your situation. In other words, you do not appear to need her.

Collectively physical and emotionally, changes like these fulfill rule number one of planet chaos and she begins to notice that she cannot have you and that you are different. When she pursues you be sure to appear only mildly interested.

This is where you need to put your energy now and I have given you the basic guidelines. By the way, you may view this strategy as simply “playing games” but remember, being married to a Chaos Kid is a whole different ballgame so this “game”  is the only way to get your wife’s attention until the midlife crisis runs its course.  Pursuing your wife to end the affair is NOT the answer. You must lure her back to you by following rule #1 and #2.

And finally, there is a lot of mixed information out there on how to deal with a spouse in an affair that I need to clear up…

You do NOT want to do any of the following:

1. Do not encourage the affair

2. Do not tell your spouse you want a divorce if that is what she is pursuing. Instead, tell her you will accept the decision but you do not agree with it. With Chaos Kids, you do not want to RESIST anything…the more you resist, the more SHE will resist and the further and faster she will run from you.

Until next time,

To a LESS stressful and MORE fulfilling marriage,

Larry Bilotta

Developer of the “Environment Changer Program

Stop Your Divorce Today – Without Your Spouses’
Participation Even AFTER The Papers Have Been Filed

——-> www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com

About Larry Bilotta:

Larry Bilotta has been teaching couples how to restore their loveless marriages since 1995. Back in the 90′s, Larry was suffering MISERABLY in a loveless marriage.

He needed a way to reduce the stress, anxiety and tension in his marriage. Not because he was devoted to his wife, but because he needed to maintain his own SANITY. Larry’s wife didn’t believe in divorce…but at the same time, she told him he could leave her…in a body bag!

Needless to say, Larry set out on a mission to find a REAL solution to their ongoing struggles. And after 27 years of misery – he finally found it. Today, Larry and his wife are now happily married for 34 years…and they’re closer than ever.

Larry is one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his OWN marriage and today, holds the key to bringing back a marriage from the brink of divorce – even AFTER the papers have been filed.

At the core of Larry’s teachings is his “secret method” that allows individuals to transform themselves from the inside out, and positively influence their spouse as a result. By learning to eliminate their negative feelings in just 60 seconds, Larry has taught individual spouses how to completely change the environment of the marriage through his Environment Changer program for the past 15 years.

Listen to the stories of Larry’s Environment Changer program graduates in their own words here.

Unfortunately, when a spouse has already filed for divorce or emotionally “checked out”, this isn’t going to work.

Over the years of working with couples, I’ve found that women (and men) who are emotionally dead to their spouse, will also disconnect their children’s future from the pending divorce.

That means that a man or woman determined to seek his or her own relief, can no longer feel a sense of their children’s emotional condition in the years to come. That means they have no concern for the children’s emotional feelings in the future.

WHY? Because this “leaving spouse” is DESPERATE, they only live for today.

This is especially true for women…very often a man cannot understand a wife’s desperation because he is so content with the way things are. He wants to maintain the way things are and has no intention of understanding what put his wife in this painful condition.

It’s during the time when the wife is trying to get away, that her husband introduces children of divorce statistics and proof in an effort to convince her that the children will suffer in the future as a result of the divorce.

But a fleeing woman has NO ability to read these reports and facts. It does not matter which book or report her husband gives her. She cannot hear it or see it.

If the statistic was that children of divorced homes divorce at a rate 40% higher than people who come from parents who stayed together, she will ignore it saying that no one should be this unhappy in a marriage. All she wants now is for her husband to leave her alone because he has de-moralized her so badly, that he now has become just a bad memory.

That’s what results when men refuse to recognize a woman’s warning signs that she is dying emotionally inside. It takes years, but he never intended that anything would change because he was happy with the way things were. Her discontent was just her problem.

If this sounds all too familiar to you, and you’re worried your spouse has already reached the “Snap Line”, DON’T GIVE UP just yet.

Way too often I see people give up on their marriage assuming that there is no turning back simply because their spouse wants a divorce.  I would encourage you to submit your story through my Second Chance program to see if there is still hope for your marriage. If your story is chosen, we’ll set up a complementary private 30 minute coaching call over the phone where I’ll help you understand what brought you to this point in your marriage and what you can do about it.

Your story is of course kept private and not shared with anyone other than myself and my assistant/daughter Kristen.

Submit your story today and give your marriage a second chance.

Until next time,

To a LESS stressful and MORE fulfilling marriage,

Larry Bilotta

Developer of the “Environment Changer Program

Stop Your Divorce Today – Without Your Spouses’
Participation Even AFTER The Papers Have Been Filed

——-> www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com

About Larry Bilotta:

Larry Bilotta has been teaching couples how to restore their loveless marriages since 1995. Back in the 90′s, Larry was suffering MISERABLY in a loveless marriage.

He needed a way to reduce the stress, anxiety and tension in his marriage. Not because he was devoted to his wife, but because he needed to maintain his own SANITY. Larry’s wife didn’t believe in divorce…but at the same time, she told him he could leave her…in a body bag!

Needless to say, Larry set out on a mission to find a REAL solution to their ongoing struggles. And after 27 years of misery – he finally found it. Today, Larry and his wife are now happily married for 34 years…and they’re closer than ever.

Larry is one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his OWN marriage and today, holds the key to bringing back a marriage from the brink of divorce – even AFTER the papers have been filed.

At the core of Larry’s teachings is his “secret method” that allows individuals to transform themselves from the inside out, and positively influence their spouse as a result. By learning to eliminate their negative feelings in just 60 seconds, Larry has taught individual spouses how to completely change the environment of the marriage through his Environment Changer program for the past 15 years.

Listen to the stories of Larry’s Environment Changer program graduates in their own words here.

Hi Larry,

I can’t say my marriage of 32 yrs was ever really good. My husband, I just learned from your site, is a chaos kid.  There was one affair while we were engaged, I found out about when I was pregnant with our 1st child.
There are at least 3 others since. The last was over the top. I started as an emotional affair 5 1/2 yrs ago. Then went to infidelity.

But the 2 of them got our families together 31/2 yrs ago. I found 7-9 phones, was told by friends they suspected it…I even defended them(my husband and his paramour)…Our families were attached at the “hip”. So I found proof last Sept. Let her husband know. He beat my husband up $30,000 in med bills. No ins. He spent a lot on her. Hid from me our financial ruin. Our former friends now want to kill our whole family. Over 7 police reports so far.

I thought I loved my husband, but how can I love someone who has destroyed our finances and put our entire family in real danger. Three kids and 1 baby grandchild, I really want him to leave but he refuses to.  I don’ t believe he will ever quit. I have tried to forgive him. But I don’t think I can. Am I stupid to try again?

He refuses to talk about it.  Says he is done and won’t do it again. “This was over the top…and won’t happen again.”  We are so broke because of this that we can’t even pay our mortgage. Is there any way to save us?

Thank you,

Kat

Larry’s Answer To Kat…

Hi Kat,

You spent a lot of time telling me about all the terrible things that are happening and you know that a Chaos Kid is involved. You know that because Chaos Kids do what their childhood demands they do, create CHAOS! It doesn’t matter what Chaos Kids promise, they cannot keep their promises.

All they can do is give in to the programming of their childhood when that machine in their brain comes demanding that they recreate their childhood home.  It’s really not your husband’s fault.  This machine in his brain is more powerful than his willpower.

I would encourage you to find more of what I’ve written and recorded about Chaos Kids here because it will help you understand what you’re facing. If you are from a good home, you don’t really understand what it’s like to be a Chaos Kid.

Larry

Until next time,

To a LESS stressful and MORE fulfilling marriage,

Larry Bilotta

Developer of the “Environment Changer Program

Stop Your Divorce Today – Without Your Spouses’
Participation Even AFTER The Papers Have Been Filed

——-> www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com

About Larry Bilotta:

Larry Bilotta has been teaching couples how to restore their loveless marriages since 1995. Back in the 90′s, Larry was suffering MISERABLY in a loveless marriage.

He needed a way to reduce the stress, anxiety and tension in his marriage. Not because he was devoted to his wife, but because he needed to maintain his own SANITY. Larry’s wife didn’t believe in divorce…but at the same time, she told him he could leave her…in a body bag!

Needless to say, Larry set out on a mission to find a REAL solution to their ongoing struggles. And after 27 years of misery – he finally found it. Today, Larry and his wife are now happily married for 34 years…and they’re closer than ever.

Larry is one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his OWN marriage and today, holds the key to bringing back a marriage from the brink of divorce – even AFTER the papers have been filed.

At the core of Larry’s teachings is his “secret method” that allows individuals to transform themselves from the inside out, and positively influence their spouse as a result. By learning to eliminate their negative feelings in just 60 seconds, Larry has taught individual spouses how to completely change the environment of the marriage through his Environment Changer program for the past 15 years.

Listen to the stories of Larry’s Environment Changer program graduates in their own words here.