Comments on: Suffering From a Sexless Marriage? Here’s How To Rekindle The Romance In Your Marriage

By: shawntai

shawntai — Wed, 29 Feb 2012 05:51:18 +0000

How can you meet your spouses ultimate expectation when they have hurt you so much the way you feel about love and sex now is different andy u don’t enjoy it or get turned on because all the negativety surrounding it!! I think of how quick he moves on when we have a argument and starts a relationship with someone else, says sorry in three mths, I take him back and he thinks sex and love between us is special!

By: Lucy

Lucy — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 22:04:36 +0000

I have to disagree with this comment, I know where Alicia is coming from. I had the same problem as her, as soon as my husband and I moved in together (we didn’t live together before marriage), sex almost stopped within the 1st week! After weeks and weeks of trying and being rejected, I tried to talk about it calmly but it always ended in an argument. We even went to see a marriage counselor about it, and he said that the sex stopped because of the fights, while the fights started after weeks of no sex! So impossible to have a discussion about it! So, just saying that it’s not always the other way around, and that maybe other problems underlying… And like Alicia, I had a high sex drive before marriage!

By: Larry Bilotta

Larry Bilotta — Wed, 12 May 2010 15:51:50 +0000

Hi Alicia,

You are one of the minority of women (though you are not alone) who is more interested in sex than a man, but you don’t have a sex problem. You have a negative energy problem. Negative energy comes out of people in thousands of ways. Some very subtle and others very obvious.

A researcher and author for Psychology Today magazine, Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, author of a book called Positivity, has shown over 30 years of research that people who have three positive thoughts for every single negative thought in an average day, experience great rewards in every area of their life, and sex is one of them.

I would encourage you and your husband to take her positivity test online here: http://www.positivityratio.com/single.php

You should get her book if you have an interest. I worked with married couples every day and I find consistently that the more negative energy there is in the relationship, the more dead they are to sexual interest. Makes a lot of sense, doesn’t it?

Larry

By: Alicia

Alicia — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 21:33:26 +0000

I just had a concern about the sex thing cause it’s not me it’s him. I’ve always had a high sex drive and since we moved in together a year ago sex has become less and less to the point where MAYBE we have sex once a week. Most books and articles out there are directed towards men getting their women in the mood. How do I deal with his lack of sex drive??? It’s beginning to really wear on our relationship!