Today we’ll be addressing the common problem of…What To Do When Your Spouse Has Told You,”I’m Not In Love With You Anymore.
Has your spouse uttered those dreaded words…“I’m not in love with you anymore”?
Or maybe what you heard was… “I’m not in love with you anymore and I want a divorce.”
In the unfortunate event that you did hear these words from your spouse, you might have felt shocked and confused at first, but then noticed that those feelings quickly wore off and anger and resentment quickly took their place.
So that’s where you’re at now because you’ve reached a fork in the road. On one hand, you could take the ‘easy way out’ and, in an effort to stop the fighting and pain, you could get a divorce and try to pick up the pieces of your life and start over again.
(Even though both you and I know that this is NOT an easy thing to do…in fact, it may be the farthest thing from it considering all the grief and pain it will cause you…and possibly your kids!)
Yes, I said it. Divorce WILL negatively impact your children.
Many people like to believe otherwise, but if you want the facts, download my FREE special report, The Effects of Divorce on Children.
But Divorce Is NOT Your Only Option…
You could ‘take the bull by its horns’ and try to work out the difficult issues with your spouse in an effort to save your marriage. But realistically, this is not a good option either since focusing on the “difficult issues” very often makes things even WORSE!
SO….Where does this leave you?
At this point you need to make a decision. Because if you truly want to make this marriage work, you need to be 100% committed.
And if you want to have even the SLIGHTEST chance of saving your marriage, it is CRITICAL that you do SOMETHING to stop the hurt, anger and resentment you’re feeling from ‘taking you over’ and destroying your marriage.
Now I know you may be thinking that it’s no longer possible to save your marriage because your spouse has already told you that s/he is “not in love with you anymore.”
Well, believe it or not, those words are NOT a ‘deal breaker’ (they can be) but not always. What your spouse is really telling you is that s/he no longer feels that his/her needs are being met by you.
So what now?
Just Follow My “3 Step System”, and You’ll Have a MUCH Better Chance Of “Getting Through” To Your Spouse and Opening The Lines Of Communication.
The first part of step 1 is this: Do NOT let your negative feelings “get the best of you.”
I know, easier said than done, right? WRONG!
There IS a way to control your feelings and win over the love and acceptance of your spouse….and it’s easier than you might think! (I’ll get to that in a moment)
But the most important thing for you to understand right now is that it doesn’t matter if YOU are the only one who is committed to saving your marriage because it only takes ONE to heal a relationship.
Yep, it’s true.
I KNOW this is true because I’ve seen it happen in the individuals I work with every day. But I’ve got EVEN BETTER proof that it’s possible because… *I* personally saved MY OWN marriage…WITHOUT ANY participation from my wife….
And I’m going to give you tips on how you can do the same in each addition of this newsletter… But the first, and most CRITICAL step you must take right now is learning how to control your anger and frustration… so you don’t take all your anger and frustration out on your spouse.
I offer a FREE, 7 day email mini-course to help you eliminate your negative feelings in just 60 seconds.
TRY IT and find out for yourself. I receive emails daily from people who have gone through my mini course and gained control over their feelings, seeing positive results in their life because of it.
Here’s what these women had to say after going through the 7 Day email mini-course…
“I found the entire course valuable.It was the one thing that actually changed me completely…and only for the best.
I feel much better about myself than I ever did before. Also my relationships with everybody improved, not only with my husband, but with friends, relatives and family.
Because I have changed my way of behaving, the others changed their ways towards me too.
I can see the biggest result with my husband…
He loves talking with me now, we don’t fight anymore (yes we still argue but it does not end in a fight anymore, just a discussion that we get through very fast and after that we don’t stay angry like we did before.)
He is now proud of me. It used to be that when we met people, he introduced me as Kathleen. He did not mention that I was his wife. Now he comes to get me to meet people and the first thing he says is: “This is my wife, my everything, I want you to meet her.”
He helps me where he can and he does his best to make me happy. I also found him very often looking at me with this loving glow in his eyes. And all this began when I was following this mini-course.
It totally changed me and because of that it changed my life and my relationship. I feel like I came home after a long hard trip.”
“Thank you so much for this wonderful mini course. I never expected to find such a result oriented course for free….I am feeling good already and hope to get back a normal life for myself and my family soon.”“The idea that I found most helpful is the ‘practical turnaround’ point where I need to stop the urge to go in the same negative pattern when something bad happens to me but in order to effectively beat my amygdala, start reliving a pleasant memory to erase the negative pictures in my ITV. I believe it gets better with consistent practice.”
Pema – India
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If you apply the insight you learn about in my mini course, you will be able to avoid the most critical mistake most spouses make when they’re faced with a “leaving spouse”.
This MISTAKE is none other than confronting your spouse about all the BAD THINGS that s/he has done over the years.
Bringing up past arguments or faults is definitely NOT a good thing to do at this point in your marriage, yet 99% of people in your exact situation do just that!
Confronting your spouse will only escalate the resentment between both of you. And doing so will only push him/her further and further away from you until one day, they decide that enough is enough…and then…
…well, you know what happens next – the marriage is over and unfortunately, there’s NO turning back.
So for now, you just need to “master” the skill of controlling your negative feelings before you do anything else.
Controlling your negative feelings goes hand in hand with another skill that you might have heard of before…
STEP 1B) Learn “The Law of Attraction”
You can learn all about it in the movie “The Secret” which you can watch online for just $4.95 at the official Secret web site.
I HIGHLY suggest you watch this inspirational movie.
If you want your own copy, you can purchase The Secret (Extended Edition)and watch it on your DVD player at home. You get a copy of the book by clicking on the image of The Secret at the right.
One woman reported the following results back to me after she watched The Secret…
“I’m aware of the “law of attraction” from a book/DVD called “The Secret”. It’s powerful. After absorbing that idea, I wrote down my list of “images to imagine” and “what I wanted to achieve”. That happened about 5 months ago.
I wrote: “I want my husband back” and “I want to go home” and “I want my son to return home from the Middle East soon and safely”. I put my list in my cosmetic bag in my hotel room, I didn’t really look at it every day, I just knew it was there everyday.
There were 6 desires on that list and as of last Tuesday evening 5 of those things have come about. I was actually surprised when I pulled the list out the other night (at home and not in a hotel room) and discovered that 5 of the 6 had come to fruition.
First, my son came home a full 4 months sooner than he expected… he returned ON my birthday. The other 4 had to do with my husband and they have all happened….”
– D. Kennedy