Over the years, I’ve received a lot of questions about how to act around a spouse going through a midlife crisis.

  • Should you ask questions about what he or she is going through?
  • Should you talk to your spouse about getting some help?
  • Should you avoid your spouse completely?

Here is best way to deal with a spouse going through a mid life crisis…

When living with a spouse in midlife crisis, and you are in the same house, your job is to look like you have something to do at all times. You are busy and productive. If you talk, it is always calm and pleasant and about a life management issue, rather than how he or she personally feels or what your spouse did.

Remember, in a midlife crisis, your spouse likely views you as the enemy of where they want to go and what they want to do, even though in reality you are not the enemy.

Don’t initiate conversations because your spouse will choose to be against whatever you are saying.

That means that small talk and pleasant conversation are no longer appropriate. Your spouse has made you the enemy and this is why you must stay away from initiating anything that resembles pleasant conversation unless your spouse brings a topic up first. (Which is not likely in the most extreme cases of a spouse going through a midlife crisis.)