About Larry Bilotta:
Larry Bilotta has been teaching men and women how to restore their loveless marriages since 1995. Back in the 90’s, Larry was suffering miserably in a loveless marriage. He needed a way to reduce the stress, anxiety and tension in his marriage. After 27 years of misery – he finally found it. Today, Larry and his wife are now happily married over 40 years…and they’re closer than ever.
Larry is one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his own marriage and today, holds the key to bringing back a marriage from the brink of divorce.
Larry, really enojyed the video and the train analogy.
What suggestions do you have when a wife does not have the self-esteem engine running?
We have been married 18 years and have 3 boys – 14,12 and 6 (6 year old is my nephew who has been living with us for about 4 years). About 7 weeks ago she asked me to move out and continues to routinely express that I am a great father, provider and am a loyal/ committed partner but says that the thought of me moving back on a permenant basis would cause her not be able to breathe. I got wrapped up in activities with the older two boys (mostly coaching youth sports) and she stopped teaching for a second time to take care of our nephew. We both still get along and want our relationship back but feels like right now we are more friends than husband and wife. She states that she doesn’t want to be “pushed” and needs time to figure things out and prove that she can do “it” on her own but so far she has been either unwilling or unable to share what “it” is.
Although she disagrees, to me separation feels like the first step towards something more permenant and nice way to let the kids, family and friends ease into a new “reality”. Every day that I am seperated from the family and out of the house I can feel a sense of frustration and resentment building. I know if shouldn’t be, but living apart is driving me crazy and I am not sure how much longer I can put up with this arrangement.
Thanks for any additional insight or suggestions.
Larry, Thank you so much for this video. I emotionally secure and feel great about myself. However, my husband does not seem motivated to make contributions to make our marriage happy and fulfilling? What can I do to motivate him?
Hi Larry, Not only did this video make sense to me, it fits my current situation. Question, is there a more unique approach to achieving this when a woman fits the chaos kid category?
Thanks