Heal Yourself, Heal Your Marriage

Do you desperately want to fix your marriage and create a new love, deeper than what you had before?

You and I may not know each other personally, but if you’re worried your marriage is over, here’s what I do know about you…

You’ve got countless challenges.

  • Faced with a spouse who won’t communicate
  • Worried it’s already too late
  • Tired of being rejected by the person you love with all your heart
  • Struggling to control emotions
  • Getting mixed messages
  • Still in love your partner deeply
  • Not ready to give up yet

If you’re tired of trying, only to be met with constant rejection, not making any real progress getting through to your spouse…

Keep reading if you haven’t given up hope just yet.

I’m about to share how you can stop the divorce process, win your partner’s heart back, and shorten their midlife crisis. But first, I’d like to introduce myself and explain why helping you heal yourself, and then your marriage is my life’s passion!

I’m Larry Bilotta, a relationship and marriage expert and author, who specializes in midlife crisis, and creator of a series of successful programs designed to help bring couples back from the brink of divorce — and come back stronger than before.

After suffering through 27 years of hell in my own marriage, in the 28th year I turned it all around.

I believe you can, too.

Why I spent thousands of hours

Creating a lifeline for seemingly hopeless marriages

Larry Bilotta at small group session
The Larry and Marsha story

Back in the 90’s, my wife and I were deeply unhappy in our marriage

Marsha and I both came from parents who believed that you simply stayed married – and miserable. So that was our life as adults. We were locked into a pattern of suffering and extreme stress that was unbearable and endless. I’m talking car chases, three-day battles and on again, off again silent treatment. It was bad.

But then, something interesting happened.

After one of our three-day fights, 27 years into a difficult marriage, I stumbled upon the answer to our problems. This simple realization changed everything. I was different. My marriage was different, and my wife didn’t change one bit! I found greater peace and fulfillment as a person.

I knew I wasn’t alone and there were scores of others suffering needlessly. And for the past 20+ years, I’ve found many of these challenges are 100% solvable with the right approach. From my experience, I knew what couples were missing and I knew I could help them.

First, I began working with couples one-on-one. I mentored hundreds of couples locally with an 88% success rate, but I wanted to do more than that. My dream was to create a system men and women could do on their own, without their spouse’s participation. A system they could take part in from anywhere in the world.

Mission accomplished!

And that, is how the Environment Changer course was born.


You may not realize it, but you might be unintentionally pushing your spouse away by clinging to limited beliefs along with negative energy, bitterness, feelings of betrayal and neediness.

If you’re like most people, you were blindsided. One day, you’re best friends, the next – distant enemies, crushed with news that they’ve been miserable for years and never really loved you.

It’s crushing and suffocating to feel so helpless. I get it. I’ve been there myself. But the good news is we only learn when we’re in pain. And without your “pain provider”, you could sleepwalk through life, never realizing your true potential for growth and happiness as a person.

The Environment Changer Approach
  • Find and Remove the hidden inner barriers holding you back.
  • Identify and replace negative beliefs that cause you to fall back into the same old patterns.
  • Learn how to become the BEST version of yourself
  • Eliminate bad feelings and end your struggle with anxiety, fear, stress, anger, resentment and worry once and for all.
  • Build Your PATH FORWARD
  • Learn to attract what and who you want in life
  • Establish healthy mindset practices that bring you more of what you want in life and LESS of what you don’t.

This logical, step by step coaching program unlocks access to TRAINING VIDEOS and materials that teach you how to put together each element of the Environment Changer System.

You will be enrolled in the women’s PRIVATE CHAT GROUP which puts you in an environment with other successful Environment Changers who will reinforce this new approach to your life and marriage.

You’ll join me on my WEEKLY COACHING CALLS to make sure you stay on track and are always 100% clear on what to do next.

Thank you so much, I am instantly feeling myself again since my phone call with Tammi and commencing your course.

Module one, especially the rules to follow when communicating with my ex, has made a remarkable shift in me.

I finally feel like I can breathe again and am me again. Due to my attitude change, positive change is happening all around me. I am being calm and kind.

My (ex) husband is treating me with kindness. I also get to feel good about myself as am being a good person.

It’s simply wonderful. I sincerely feel empowered and immense relief, I have my strength back and I get my control.

I’ve been so sad, powerless, rejected, neglected, lonely, intensely angry and those feelings are gone. Yay!

Amy Lovelace

Chicago, Illinois

The Environment Changer course is for struggling spouses who want to…

Feel calm & at peace

Get your emotions under control and effortlessly exude a sense of calm, peace and confidence.

Become genuinely happy

Break free from the dependence on others to make you happy.

Create the life you deserve

Thoughts create reality. Shift your mindset to create the life you’ve always wanted.

Overcome past hurt

Avoid falling back into old habits by removing limited beliefs and pain from  your past.

Find your true self

Feel self-assured about your identity and who you want to be as an individual, spouse, and parent.

Save your family

Heal your family and grow old together. Emotionally secure your children and break the cycle of chaos.


What is the investment?

It’s about the cost of a one week vacation. And with it, you’ll be wiping out your old obstacles and connecting to your wife on an even deeper level than before. In fact, rather than planning a divorce, in a matter of months, your wife could be planning your next vacation together.

What’s it worth to save your family from the heartbreak and pain of divorce?

Should I share this with my partner?

99% of the time, the answer is no. Chaos Kids in a midlife crisis are rarely open to new ideas, especially ideas that come from you. Chaos Kids refuse to accept responsibility or admit that they are wrong. In fact, just the opposite is true.

If you approach your partner with this information, they will tell you that YOU are the one who needs help and that you should “go fix yourself” because you are the cause of problems in the marriage.

The rare exception would be if your partner has long been going through a midlife crisis and has finally seen the damage inflicted on the family. At this point, they may be ready to learn, but most of the time, it is best to keep this to yourself for now.

What if it's already too late?

Your partner’s hurtful words and anger is based on pain from their childhood. Unfortunately, they don’t recognize this and their anger is directed at you. YOU are now the enemy.

For this reason, don’t put importance on what your partner says to you because their emotions will vary wildly from one day to the next. One day, they want a divorce, the next, they’re not sure. Nothing is permanent in a midlife crisis – even divorce papers. Focusing your efforts on on coping with the crisis, maintaining your own mental health, and that of your children will go a long way toward a better future for your family.

Is anything shipped to me?

We respect your privacy and understand discretion is important to you right now. The materials in this course are sent to you by email. Under no condition, will anything be shipped to your home – now or into the future.

How do I access the course?

Once your order is processed, you’ll be redirected to a private portal with all your materials. The course is self-paced and you can access it at any time.

What is the difference between this course and the midlife crisis course?

The Environment Changer course is a comprehensive solution that shows you HOW to win your partner’s heart back, shut off your negative thoughts, and become a better, happier and more fulfilled person overall.

Think of it this way:

  • If you want to learn WHAT a midlife crisis is, how long it will last, how to act around your partner and you are interested in midlife crisis specific information, the midlife crisis course will help you learn how to cope with the crisis and weather the storm.
  • If you want to learn HOW to shorten your partner’s midlife crisis, and build a stronger, deeper love than before, the Environment Changer course is the right course for you.
  • Additionally, the EC course includes a live support options where you can ask Larry Bilotta questions each week and participate in a private community of like-minded people. The EC course is focused on a solution to midlife crisis vs detailing what a midlife crisis is, what to expect, etc.

If you still have questions, contact us at 262-397-8766.



Get expert answers and advice on specific challenges you are faced with.


Step-by-step approach to build momentum and gain confidence in your ability to save your marriage and rebuild the life you’ve always imagined. 


Learn with other successful students who will reinforce this new approach to your life and marriage.

Why choose the Environment Changer approach?

Lesson 1: Become who you are at heart
Lesson 2: Find and remove hidden inner barriers
Lesson 3: Eliminate bad feelings
Lesson 4: Achieve emotional freedom from pain and rejection
Lesson 5: The accountability action plan
Lesson 6: Attract what you want, NOT what you don’t
Lesson 7: Move from powerless to powerful
Lesson 8: Take your success to the next level
Private support group
Weekly group coaching

For one thing, our coaches “walk the talk,” and are successful in their own life and marriage. Other types of support like marriage counseling can make things worse or are built on manipulative tactics.

They focus on changing behavior – what you do and say. But when a spouse wants out of the marriage, is in a midlife crisis, or files for divorce, behavior-based changes make everything WORSE, not better.

We never provide “one size fits all” advice. Our coaches take the time to get to know the history of your marriage, including your struggles, daily challenges, and individual goals. We’ll help you see what’s working, what’s REALLY holding you back, and where you’ve hit a roadblock.

Ready for a different approach?  Become the best version of yourself and learn to control your emotions. And when your inner thoughts and energy changes, you’ll find your outside world changes too.

Book a call below to see if this approach is the right fit for you.