These stories are from real people who saved their marriage or overcame specific problems in their marriage through the Environment Changer program. (Some students enroll for self improvement rather than marital reasons – stories reflect this.)
All of the following individuals have given us full consent to reproduce their comments on this site.
Brian Patridge from Oregon
Carrie sees her husband becoming the kind of spouse she knew he could be – and he has not changed one bit.
Josh and his wife are now getting back together again as a married couple.
Dave was borderline suicidal. Today he is happily married to his wife who almost left him and now wants to grow old with him.
I just wanted you to know exactly how right you were about my wife’s personality. You hit the nail on the head and woke me up to how blind I’ve been about what she’s needed from me.
I feel her coming back to me slowly but it is happening.
I’m doing a lot better in sticking to everything you’ve taught me. I have far more control of my emotions than I ever have in my whole life because of your program. I’ve learned a lot more from you but these are the big things. I just wanted to share that with you.
The Environment Changer program helped Bill in ways he never could have imagined.
After suffering with anxiety for 17 years, within 1 week, John discovered the cause of all of the pain and chaos in his life.
Larry, you know that I’ve always been success and achievement oriented in everything except my marriage. Through your program I realized I must become successful there too, in fact, I should have all along.
Your course is so totally in keeping with what I already believe, that I cannot change anyone, but everyone is influenced by the emotional condition I’m in. Through your course, you’ve given me a specific way to do that and now I’m able to live without all that anxiety, intensity and urgency that has stressed out me, my wife and our children for so long.
Elizabeth finally feels free from her negative thoughts and feelings.
“I’m amazed with everything you’ve created … from the Flag page, to all your articles on the internet, to the 2 greatest needs of men and women, the secret path to divorce. I can see your program is perfect and it’s the path to a happy life for a man, and then a happy marriage. I hope one day to join you because we need more men doing the right thing for themselves and their wives.
After 6 months, Kevin stopped his divorce and is planning vacation as a family.
I wanted to say thank you for all that you do. You have helped me to gain a part of the vision for my marriage and I’m seeing that my wife is enjoying confiding in me more and more. I have confirmation of that in her own words. She told me that she is telling me things now that she never would have months ago.
The other day she even gave a hint that she will move back home. I am so thankful for finding you and this incredible group of guys who love to hear the truth and live the truth.
So many good things are happening in so many ways, it’s just downright ridiculous.
David's wife of 15 years filed for divorce. Today, David's marriage is healing and he has a new sense of calm in his life.
Some students enter the EC program for self improvement reasons, rather than marriage restoration. Jill experienced dramatic life changing experiences.
I have received good help from my counselor tracking down childhood issues—but the Environment Changer way is much less complicated and direct. It’s as if good counselors SORT OF know what is in the Environment Changer course—but they don’t know ALL of it.
Our marriage counselor recognized the evil going on but when I asked for a plan or strategy, he sadly said, “Until your husband starts talking and revealing truth to someone, there isn’t anything for you to do.” But my stubborn self wasn’t going to quit, and I thank God I found this course. Interestingly, the same counselor gave me Dan Allender’s book The Healing Path, the theme of which could be called “Don’t waste the pain.” Again, experienced counselor…kinda, sorta sees things, but not completely.
Over the past year, I have probably read 25 books and done 7 online courses, and have seen one counselor, one marriage counselor, and one wise pastor. From them, I have been given pieces of what I have gotten out of this course—pieces I have put to good use—but this course has put the puzzle pieces together into something that makes sense to me.
Cliff turned his life around through the Environment Changer course.
As a real estate investor, I’ve always known that I need to stay in tune with what the market is doing, but I didn’t apply that principal to understanding what my own wife of 11 years needed and wanted from me.
I stayed away from the subject because so much of that self help stuff seems created for women. Yours is a man’s course. It was simple, easy to understand and very practical.
Your Environment Changer course makes so much common sense, I can actually apply it without forcing my wife to do anything. Your methods that I’ve adapted make me feel far more in control of where our marriage is going without me trying to control her. So glad I found your course Larry. The stress relief is well worth it.
Hi Larry, I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for giving me the tools to save my husband, turn my son around, and live a more loving, giving life. Seeing the change in them is amazing. I knew my husband needed me…I knew it deep in my soul when he left the first time. What I didn’t know is how much I needed him to grow and change into this new man.
I used to be worried about the detachment I was starting to feel, like I didn’t care or “settling” for a man that would be closed off and unfaithful. I now realize it’s me finally letting go of all that “stuff” and seeing him for the man he truly is…a man whose internal struggle is so great. I will save him thanks to you. His eyes sparkle more, he’s giving me compliments again and was creative in choosing a Christmas gift for me this year…first time in a long time.
After seeking help from Larry Bilotta, Kel and his wife Sam are remarried.
Alice's husband is now sleeping in the same bedroom and wearing his wedding ring again.
After a relatively short period of time, Alya turned her life around, her husband wants to be around her, and the divorce process has stopped.
Since enrolling in the EC program, Anne-Kirsten is calmer, her life is rich with possibilities, her husband softened and is slowly coming back.
“Larry, my wife and I were on the verge of divorce when I foumd your site. She had already started talking about marriage with another man. We had tried counseling years earlier and she was absolutely against any more.
After only 2 days of applying some of your methods she changed her mind and agreed to counseling.
For the first time in months, she has an answer instead of “I don’t know” when I ask her a question. Your course is an invaluable wealth of information and should be required study for anyone before marriage. Trust me, I have looked at them all. You lived it, you know it.
I never would have believed it, I had all but given up, but one positive spouse can turn things around. Once again, thank you from the bottom of my heart.”
After Brenda's husband hit his breaking point, she enrolled in the program Today she is calm, happy and her marriage is filled with love and happiness.
After Bob's wife moved 2500 miles away with another man, he attracted her back and she is leaving the other man to come home.
I must admit that I’ve been in a haze for several years but it finally woke me up when my wife left me for another man. Your course literally made it possible for me to change the course of my life as a husband, as a man, a dad and even my career has taken a more confident turn.
What you teach I’ve not seen taught anywhere. For a guy like me with a short attention span, it needed to be simple, direct and something I could actually do, not just a bunch of theory. Your program is all that and so much more. I think every husband, struggling marriage or not, should take your course.
Jennifer turned her life around through the Environment Changer program.
Marrying into a blended family was a shocking surprise for me. I had no idea what stress I was in for because I didn’t understand all that I must face. I should have found your Environment Changer Course long before I needed it.
Now that I understand how to eliminate my negative feelings in spite of circumstances in my tough situation, I can see that my wife is affected by the way I feel. That’s something every man should know. If guys don’t take your course, they will simply create the life their fathers created in their marriages. See Larry, I learned a lot in your course!